Never Stop Growing

Time waits for no man . . .or submissive. Learn about the different stages of submissive development and take the quiz at the end to see how much you have learned.  .

    Over my years of experience training, developing, and using subs, I’ve noticed a few things. With time comes experience, and with experience comes skill. Everyone discovers their roles in the hierarchy at different ages in life, and today I’m going to talk about the benefits of subs at every age (18+) and level of experience.

Stage 1: Discovery

    Discovery is when you realize what you are and your role. Some subs discover that they are submissive in their 20s, but others don’t come to this realization under they are much older. Regardless of your age, this is where you learn to accept who and what you are. During this stage, many subs will go to porn or search online for archetypes. They cling to these as a basis to form their identities.

 

    Many younger subs often get a sense of arrogance over their carnal desires. They are full of ego and have a hard time accepting that they need to remove this part of themselves. As they are still wrestling with surging hormones, they fight their desire for self pleasure and gratification when they need to remember that pleasure comes from, and is primarily for, the Alpha. 

    Exercise For Younger Discovery Subs: When you pleasure yourself, do it in front of a mirror. Look at yourself, and repeat these words over and over again: “I am a submissive for all real Men”. When you cum, eat your cum and think, “My cum is pathetic, and the dicklet it came from is not for my pleasure”.

 

    Older subs often are often without this sense of ego, but struggle with the insecurities that come from accepting their true natures late in life, as if they have missed out on a large part of relishing who they truly are. If you are an older sub who falls into this paradigm, focus on the fact that it’s better to have started late, than to never have started at all. 

    Exercise For Older Discovery Subs: Practice, practice, practice. Take a dildo, or even a banana, and work on eliminating that gag reflex. Sure, it’s unlikely that you’ll easily attract hot Alphas for the kind of sex that a younger sub in better shape will, but you will be just as useful if you can demonstrate you have the skills for re-use. And every cock you suck, be grateful for it; it gets you closer to stage 2.

Stage 2: Exploration

    Stage 2 is when you have accepted your role as a sub and aren’t fighting with your ego or your self doubts. You know who and what you are, and you are okay with this. During this stage, you will explore your skills and figure out what you are best at. Some subs find that they are better at domestic service. Others are fantastic cocksuckers. Others are meant for breeding. This is the stage when you will try different things. Focus on the things that give the most pleasure, and be honest with both yourself and your Alphas about your limitations. Whether you are 25 or 52, if you’ve only been an active submissive for 3 years, you are on the same level.

Age has nothing to do with your status; experience does.

    If you are younger, you are probably in better shape or have more stamina. This is your strength. Push yourself and use that stamina to provide long cock worship or all-night fuck sessions.

    If you are older, you probably won’t have the same level of stamina, but this should not hold you back. Mind versus matter; remember this. Push yourself to be better and explore. Do not let anything or anyone hold you back from making up for lost time.

    Remember, regardless of your physical age, your submissive age is comparable to anyone else exploring their roles at this “age”.

Proficiency

    Once you know the type of submissive you are, have explored the possibilities, and have embraced your skills, you enter this final stage. This does not mean that you are done or have reached some sort of finish line. Far from it. We all age and we find ourselves limited by time. Don’t be afraid to reevaluate your skills, or explore new things.

    What we Alphas look for in subs comes down to three simple factors: willingness, eagerness, and skillfulness. I have been with younger, handsome subs who have amazing asses but are useless to me in regards to service because they have not gone through these stages. Conversely, I have been with older, less traditionally attractive subs who have accepted who they are, and because they meet those three factors, have been incredibly rewarding in their service.

We all age, but do not let that hold you back from being useful.

    Develop your discovered submissive tendencies. Explore your submissiveness. Become proficient in your submissiveness. It’s never too late to begin. You don’t have to be young and pretty to be useful, you just have to follow these rules.

Think you learned something here today? Take our quiz to prove it.

- Alpha Lyon